Self-Love and Acceptance Spell

Casting this spell during a New Moon is ideal since it is about releasing negativity and setting new, positive intentions. Remember, when using fire always be cautious. You will be burning only a few small pieces of parchment paper, but if the fire gets out of control, place the lid on the cauldron so the fire will go out. Safety first, always.

Self-Love and Acceptance Spell


  • Black candle (substitute silver)
  • Book of Shadows/magickal journal (optional)
  • Cauldron or fire-safe container with a lid
  • Lighter or matches
  • Parchment or paper, cut or torn into small pieces
  • Rose oil (substitute preferred scent)
  • Rose quartz (optional)
  • Writing utensil
  • Yellow candle (substitute white)


To begin, cleanse, ground, and cast a circle to keep unwanted energy away. Using your small pieces of paper or parchment write things about yourself that you do not like and would like to release. Use one piece per release. If you have a long list it might be best to perform the spell several times over the course of a few months and release different things each month.

Be careful about your wording; this is a release of negative emotion. Don’t write “I’m ugly,” write “My negative self-image.” Write “Feeling shy around others,” but avoid “Boys/girls don’t like me.” Using the rose oil anoint your black candle from the top down to diminish negative energy. Take each piece of parchment and read it aloud saying, “I release: [text written on the paper],” then light it using the black candle and drop the paper into your cauldron to burn away.

Using the rose oil anoint your yellow candle from the bottom up to represent the growing energy. Record in your Book of Shadows the positive version of the feelings you released, such as “I am outgoing and friendly,” or “I love and accept myself.” Once these are recorded, light the yellow candle while speaking them aloud, then sit with these new thoughts until comfortable. Holding your hands over the rose quartz, charge them with your positive intentions as you speak them aloud or think them.

Once you feel comfortable with these new thoughts, feelings, or ideas about yourself, say aloud:

To the black candle:

“Candle burn and set this free,
All my negativity.”

To the yellow candle:

“Candle bright with dancing flame,
The best of self I do reclaim.”

Closing affirmation:

“So mote it be!” or “It is as I have spoken.”

Sit for as long as you are comfortable, then extinguish and black and yellow candles, and unwind the circle.

Additional Steps

You can now carry the rose quartz crystal with you to replenish your positive energy when it is getting low. At the next Full Moon release these intentions and allow the crystal to charge again. You can program it again the next time you cast this spell. Also at the Full Moon re-read your journal entry and reflect on how the spell is working for you. Over the next few weeks, before the next New Moon, you can reflect on what to add and if you need or want to cast the spell again you can plan accordingly.

Another next step is to participate in some self-care; if you haven’t already, check out my 15 Magickal Self-Care Ideas for Witches.

There you have it, a spell for releasing negative self-image and replacing it with love and acceptance, I hope you find it helpful. Blessed be, friends!

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